We spend a lot of time in our homes - even if it’s just to sleep, our homes play an important role in our feelings of being grounded, safe and comfortable. When we have a home we can relax in, our ability to recharge and recalibrate is enhanced.
Have you ever stayed somewhere that felt heavy, dense or uncomfortable? Can you recall walking into a room after someone has had an argument and felt the tension in the air? Is there a place you can visualise that seemed somehow hostile, dark and uninviting - even if the space was big?
This is negative energy, and such energy can collect in our homes - often without us realising it – impacting on the way we feel, behave and think.
When my husband and I got married some six years ago we held our wedding at a historic home in the Southern Highlands. The grounds were beautiful, and our ceremony was in the garden with our reception following in the dining room and ballroom. Most of our guests stayed overnight in separate guest rooms. At this time, I had not opened up my awareness as much as I have today - but I could still tell that something wasn’t quite right when it was time to go to bed. Sometime during the night I was woken by a deep sensation of dread - and when I opened my eyes I saw a dark figure hovering over my bed with its mouth wide open right next to my face. At first I froze, and then I screamed so loudly my new husband jumped 5 metres into the air, before reaching over to find out what was wrong. I kept screaming until eventually the shape vanished - but I was really shaken. So was my husband.
I have had similar experiences in old cottages where I have stayed - hearing menacing footsteps pacing in the middle of the night, feeling the sick, heavy dense energy of fear in the shower block of an old gaol I visited in Adelaide, unwittingly tuning into the deep childhood sadness of a friend when I meditated in their old bedroom, sensing the stagnant energy underneath piles of papers and files in a workplace, picking up on angry vibes when I have entered a room after someone has had an argument and feeling an intensity at the front of my forehead, like a fog and feeling the need to squint my eyes if I’m in a room and people are attempting to manipulate me or others.
The great news is, we can work towards clearing our homes and other spaces we frequent of any residual heaviness, sadness or negativity and cultivate a space full of light, clear and joyful energy.
Seven Steps to Clear Your Space
There are many ways to clear your space, but here is a simple guide to get you started.
Equipment - Before you start you will need:
You may also feel called to light candles, burn essential oil, place high vibe crystals such as selenite in a key central spot next to a bowl of water, play soothing music or use a feather to spread the smudging smoke. Anything that feels nurturing and comforting to you.
WARNING - Please remember - if you feel any sense of dread, unease or heaviness during any part of this process, immediately visualise yourself enveloped in a clear, loving and protective energy and stop the clearing. There is no need to panic, but I would advise you to stop what you are doing and reach out to the professionals. This is unlikely to happen if you are clearing your own home - so don’t be fearful, keep your vibes high and your intentions loving.
Clearing Process -
Step One - Prepare your space - Open windows, set out objects, light candles, oils and play music before you start the process. Have your smudging tools at hand.
Step Two - Check in with how the space is feeling - My favourite way of checking in with a space is to start from the outside and ask the space how it would feel if I walked in. You will feel, sense, hear or see the answer. It is also a great idea to ask the nature spirits surrounding the space and also any trees, plants, animals as well as mother earth for help to heal and maintain the space. This knowledge can help you later to set your intention for the clearing.
Step Three - Ask the space if it’s OK if you clear it - If the space is your home, it is likely you will get a positive response - but if there is a big, negative reaction, feeling of dread or discomfort please do not proceed with the space clearing and seek out help from the professionals.
Step Four - Set an intention - Set a clear and loving intention for how you want the space to feel - you can visualise this or speak it out loud. For example - I want this space to feel calm, clear and filled with love. I want my home to have a loving, prosperous and relaxed energy.
Step Five - Visualise a protective bubble - Visualise high vibe clear energy from the heavens entering in at the crown of your head, then see it engulf you in a protective bubble. You may wish to call upon your spirit guides, ancestors or angels to help you with the process.
Step Six - Smudging - Enter the space and light the sage or palo santo and walk around the edges of each room allowing the smoke to blow where it needs to. You can walk in a clock-wise or anti-clockwise direction, listen to your intuition. Keep the windows open so the smoke (and the negative vibes) can waft out of each room.
Step Seven - Bring the light - When you have finished smudging each room, thank your space (and your guides) and imagine a huge ball of light energy radiating out from your heart centre and filling every corner of your space, spilling out into the street.
Clearing your space regularly will help to keep it fresh and the energy uplifted which will have an impact on all areas of your life.
Amanda is a (reformed) lawyer turned holistic life coach, self-care advocate, workshop facilitator, writer, speaker, avid reader, nature lover, chai tea drinker and mother to a curious, active toddler. A spirit seeker who loves connecting with others on journeys of self-discovery, Amanda believes we can all find our own version of success and live an empowered life.